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Jan
21

Video – Lost in a Moment of What He Needs

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So much in therapy is about what someone needs, and about how those needs impact our decisions and  relationships.  Our needs can be as fundamental as the basic need or safety and survival.  We also have needs for belonging and love.  Esteem needs include achievement, confidence and respect.  Actualization needs top the list, pulling us to fulfill our potential and be the best people we can be.

Often one person’s needs conflict with another’s, and actions meant to satisfy one need may create another need, perhaps in people one doesn’t even know.

This song by Edie Brickell has always stood out to me, because it identifies several specific moments of need.  It presents a tragic example of how one person’s need can create a cascade of moments of need in others.  It is a sad song that captures just how painful and overwhelming needs can be.

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Anda Jines MS LCPC offers mental health counseling services in the southwest suburbs of Chicago, in Tinley Park, IL (60477); near Orland Park, Oak Forest, Orland Hills, Palos Heights, Mokena, and Frankfort. Click here for more about Anda Jines MS LCPC.

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Jan
02

Video: They Did It Anyway

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Un-Pursued Dreams

I sometimes hear about dreams that people had, that they didn’t pursue because they were told that “you can’t do that for a living.”  It may be starting a business, it may be music, or it may be sports broadcasting.  Please note that these are all things that people do actually do.  It is true that some fields are more competitive than others, but why not try your hand at it and see how well you can do?

The Nay-Sayer’s Good Intentions

The people (often parents) who say “you can’t do that” usually have good intentions.  They don’t want their child to fail.  They’re concerned about their child taking risks and ending up disappointed or in debt.  To this I say that life is full of risks, and as hard as it is to achieve a dream, the last thing an ambitious person needs is for someone to hold them back.  What they really need is guidance in how to face the challenges that their dream entails… support in getting the information they need to start them on their way, and encouragement along a challenging road.

Allowing Your Child Their Own Vision

Perhaps the nay-sayer has a different vision for their child’s future, and doesn’t understand their child’s passion for a specific dream.  To this I say that each person’s life is their own, and that expecting your child to fulfill your dreams or follow your plan is overly controlling.  One important job for parents is to help the child discover their own direction in life, their own talents, their own dreams, and how to pursue them.

Video

This video is a great example of two self-educated artist brothers who pursued their dream despite the messages they heard that “you can’t do that for a living.”  I don’t know where they heard these messages, and it may not have been from their parents.  But their story is nonetheless a great example of pursuing your dreams and interests.  I wish them continued joy in their art work, and hope that their story inspires you to pursue your ambitions and interests as far as you can take them, whether it is as a hobby or as a vocation.

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Anda Jines MS LCPC offers mental health counseling services in the southwest suburbs of Chicago, in Tinley Park, IL (60477); near Orland Park, Oak Forest, Orland Hills, Palos Heights, Mokena, and Frankfort. Click here for more about Anda Jines MS LCPC.

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Nov
19

The Psychology of Pleasure by Nathaniel Branden – video

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I have been thinking a lot lately about happiness versus depression.  These two videos about the psychology of pleasure present some interesting food for thought, and help to clarify some of the dynamics that I often encounter in my work and in my life.  Very interesting.

Video 1:

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Video 2:

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Anda Jines MS LCPC offers mental health counseling services in the southwest suburbs of Chicago, in Tinley Park, IL (60477); near Orland Park, Oak Forest, Orland Hills, Palos Heights, Mokena, and Frankfort. Click here for more about Anda Jines MS LCPC.

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Jul
05

Three Videos on Anxiety

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I just found “The Answered Patient” which is a series of educational videos from AnswersTV.  I picked three videos on anxiety to share with you.

This first video is an overview of anxiety:

This next video is about how psychotherapy can help with anxiety:

The third video is about how anxiety affects the body:

I hope you found these videos helpful.

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Anda Jines MS LCPC offers mental health counseling services in the southwest suburbs of Chicago, in Tinley Park, IL (60477); near Orland Park, Oak Forest, Orland Hills, Palos Heights, Mokena, and Frankfort. Click here for more about Anda Jines MS LCPC.

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Nov
21

Are You Socially Intelligent? – Video

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Social Intelligence

Daniel Goleman is a well known author and researcher who previously taught us about emotional intelligence.   More recently he has written a book on social intelligence, which is based on recent groundbreaking research in social neuroscience.

This video is a quick introduction to a very important concept and why it matters.

Anda Jines MS LCPC offers mental health counseling services in the southwest suburbs of Chicago, in Tinley Park, IL (60477);  near Orland Park, Oak Forest, Orland Hills, Palos Heights, Mokena, and Frankfort.  Click here for more about Anda Jines MS LCPC.

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Oct
17

Inspiring Stories: William Kamkwamba

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Life presents us all with struggles, but they are not equally difficult.  Some have to overcome more than others, making their accomplishments all the more meaningful. William Kamkwamba faced very difficult circumstances, and was reportedly surrounded by people who discouraged his creative problem solving.  I applaud him for his ingenuity and perseverance. (His accent may be a little difficult to understand at times, but his story still comes across strong and clear.)

Anda Jines MS LCPC offers mental health counseling services in the southwest suburbs of Chicago, in Tinley Park, IL (60477);  near Orland Park, Oak Forest, Orland Hills, Palos Heights, Mokena, and Frankfort.

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Aug
07

Relax to the Sounds of Nature

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One of the best gifts my parents ever gave me is an appreciation for nature, and a habit of going for walks in beautiful places.  I still remember snapshots of our hikes in Poland, and of course everywhere else we’ve lived.

Tuning in to the Moment

I find that being in nature is one of the most relaxing things I can do.  It’s relaxing to stretch my limbs after a day in the office, to breathe in the forest scents and scenes, and to feel the coolness of a light breeze overlapping with the warmth of the sun.  But I notice the beauty most when I tune in to the sounds around me, especially the sounds of birds or water.  It’s a soothing way to tune in to the present moment, and to put the planning, problem solving, and worries of the daily grind on hold.

10 Minute Break

But I don’t always have the time to go there… or it might be too cold, rainy or dark (especially here in the Chicago area).  When I need a few minutes of relaxation, but can’t go for a walk, I can use my imagination.  A little help from a soundtrack like this makes it even easier.

I recommend that you close your eyes as you listen to this; and picture yourself in nature where these sounds came from.  Use your imagination to layer all your senses over these sounds.  What do you see… smell?  Can you taste the fresh air or clean water?  What objects or textures can you touch? Let your imagination envelop you completely in these sound-scapes.

Anda Jines MS LCPC offers mental health counseling services in the southwest suburbs of Chicago, in Tinley Park (60477); near Orland Park, Oak Forest, Palos Heights, Mokena, and Frankfort.

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Jul
23

Cloud Watching Relaxation

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Simple Relaxation

Do you remember, when you were a kid, laying in the grass, looking up at the clouds?  What a peaceful memory… what a simple way to relax.  Many of the relaxation exercises I see and use are much more elaborate, scripted, with music and “procedures.”  But I have always come back to the simplest relaxation techniques in my own day to day use.

Don’t Forget to Breathe

Mindful breathing and deep breathing are two other very simple relaxation techniques.  You always have your breath with you, and you can always use it to ground yourself, re-connect with the moment, and trigger the relaxation response.  Of course, you can combine gazing at the clouds with deep breathing very easily.

My Favorite Combination

The most peaceful scene I have experienced combines gazing and clouds, deep breathing and floating in water.  There was a beautiful lake in southern Illinois, lake Kinkaid, with a few trails following its shores.  I used to walk my dog there.  Every once in a while I went far enough to reach a secluded spot perfect for swimming.  I would float on my back in the water, breathing slowly, deeply, using my breath as a flotation device, and just watching the clouds.  Having my ears be underwater added a special muffling effect that I found very soothing.  Although I cannot go there now, I can still visit that spot in my imagination.  I will always remember it.

Cloud Relaxation

Here is a short video about watching clouds for relaxation.  This video is intended to be watched in the morning.  As you listen to the description of the experience, let yourself imagine being there with all your senses.  Relax, and enjoy…

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Jun
21

Video: Carl Jung – Matter of Heart

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Carl Jung

Carl Jung

Matter of Heart: Documentary About the Life and Work of Carl Gustav Jung

Carl Jung, a Swiss psychiatrist born in 1875, started out as one of Sigmund Freud‘s students.  He went on to become a very influential thinker in psychiatry and psychology.

He was a major contributor to the field of depth psychology, which built on Freud’s ideas about the unconscious, ultimately disagreeing with Freud on people’s core needs and motivations.

He contributed and refined many ideas which continue to influence our understanding of the human psyche:

  • complex
  • archetype
  • persona
  • shadow
  • anima and animus
  • personality typology
  • dream interpretation
  • individuation, and many other ideas.

The Jung Page writes:  “He had a deep appreciation of our creative life and considered spirituality a central part of the human journey. His method of interpretation of symbolic expression not only deepens our understanding of personal material, opening the psychodynamics of our personal biographies and dreams, but the deeper, collective patterns which develop within culture as well. In his memoir, Memories, Dreams, Reflections, Jung wrote that meaning comes ‘when people feel they are living the symbolic life, that they are actors in the divine drama. That gives the only meaning to human life; everything else is banal and you can dismiss it. A career, producing of children, are all maya (illusion) compared to that one thing, that your life is meaningful.'”

“Mistakes are, after all, the foundations of truth, and if a man does not know what a thing is, it is at least an increase in knowledge if he knows what it is not.
Carl Jung

Documentary on the famous Swiss psychoanalyst, Carl Gustav Jung 1:45:16

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May
14

Sound of Music

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This video is a reminder not to forget to have fun every once in a while…  how about every day!  Music and dance are great ways to have fun, whether planned or spontaneous.  When’s the last time you sang or danced or played music?  How about while watching this video?

At first, it seems like a normal day at the train station.  Then a song from The Sound of Music starts playing on the loud speakers.  Suddenly more and more people start dancing, surprising all the passers-by with an unexpected and playful performance.

I know many of you have already seen this, but it doesn’t hurt to see it one more time, especially on a day when you’re feeling down or stressed.

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